Workbook
Close Without Losing Yourself
A practical workbook for relationship needs, honest conversations and repair
A$2935 pages, fillable PDF
What it is for
Sometimes the hardest person to be honest with is someone you don't want to lose. Separate the facts from the meaning. Find the need. Say it clearly. Listen without disappearing. Repair.
Inside
- One interaction, not the whole relationship
- The quiet loop, and where it opens
- Four questions that make the hard thing sayable
- Repair, and noticing whether repair is returned
- A two-week plan and a conversation planner
- A worked example on every exercise
You might be here if
- Something hurts, and you question whether you should mention it.
- You want closeness but worry about asking for too much.
- You explain yourself until your point disappears, or go quiet and hope they notice.
- You want to speak clearly and keep your dignity in the room.
The worked example
Marnie, 33, has been with Tom for four years. She describes herself as easygoing. Her sister describes her as someone who says it's fine and then goes quiet for two days. Marnie chose to reflect on Tom, and on the Saturday he changed their plans by text while she was already on the train.
From the pages
When have I felt able to be myself in this relationship? When have I held something back?
What evidence supports my interpretation? What evidence complicates it?
What would I like the other person to do? Is that request specific and realistic?
What do I need to listen to without defending myself immediately?
How it works
Payment is handled by Gumroad. The PDF arrives by email straight after checkout and stays in your Gumroad library. Open it in Adobe Acrobat Reader (free), Apple Preview or the Files app on iPhone and iPad; your answers save inside the file.
A support structure, not a replacement
This workbook offers education and guided reflection for adults. It does not diagnose a condition or replace counselling, psychological treatment or medical care. If anything it raises is more than you can hold alone, bring the pages to a counsellor or therapist. Sessions are here.
Refunds
Because the file is delivered instantly, purchases cannot be returned or exchanged. If a file will not open or the fields will not fill, email coach@stabilisecoaching.com and it will be sorted, usually the same day.
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A$29, 35-page fillable PDF. Instant download through Gumroad.