Workbook
Why Can't I Stop Thinking About Them?
A practical workbook for limerence, romantic longing and returning to your own life
A$2934 pages, fillable PDF
What it is for
A message arrives and the whole day changes. A message does not arrive and your mind goes looking for a reason. You can know someone is unavailable and still hope. For separating what happened from what you hoped it meant, and getting your day back.
Inside
- Separate what happened from what you hoped it meant
- The checking pattern, mapped to its point of choice
- What the connection represents, and the part of you that keeps hoping
- A contact plan that fits reality
- A two-week practice plan
- A worked example on every exercise
You might be here if
- A message arrives and your whole day changes. One does not arrive and your mind goes looking for a reason.
- You check whether they have been online before you check anything else.
- You know they are unavailable and you still hope.
- You want to move forward and you still reach for your phone.
The worked example
Rhys, 34, met J at a friend's thirtieth in March. They messaged most days for six weeks. In May, J said they weren't looking for anything right now. It's now September. Rhys checks whether J has been online before he checks the weather. He has drafted nine messages since May and sent two. He describes himself as embarrassed, and also as not quite ready to stop.
From the pages
Do I want a relationship with this person, more of this quality in my life, or both?
What does continuing to hope make possible? What does organising my life around that hope cost?
What do I hope this action will provide?
What part of my life would I like more attention available for?
How it works
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A support structure, not a replacement
This workbook offers education and guided reflection for adults. It does not diagnose a condition or replace counselling, psychological treatment or medical care. If anything it raises is more than you can hold alone, bring the pages to a counsellor or therapist. Sessions are here.
Refunds
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