Workbook
The Conditioning Map
A workbook for tracing the rules you live by
A$2939 pages, fillable PDF
What it is for
The rules you were given, next to the rules you actually run. Find the rules you were handed as a child, see what each one once protected, and decide which you still want to run.
Inside
- How a rule gets in
- Thirty rules to rate, drawn from clinical research
- What each rule protected then and costs now
- A five-step practice for the moment a rule fires
- Your whole map on one page
- A worked example on every exercise
You might be here if
- You do some things automatically and have never decided to do them.
- You call it being independent, easygoing or responsible, and it costs more than it used to.
- The same pattern turns up in every relationship, every job, every argument.
- You want to see where a rule came from without blaming anyone for it.
The worked example
Mara, 38, can't remember ever being told to be quiet. She also can't remember a single time she asked for help with something that mattered. When she first wrote that down, she described it as being independent. By the end of Part Two she had written it differently: Needing is a burden. Do it yourself.
From the pages
When you needed something as a child, what usually happened?
How do you ask for things now? Directly, sideways, not at all, or only when it's already too late?
What would you need to believe about yourself to rest without earning it first?
Which of your rules, if you broke it, would feel like a betrayal of someone? Who?
Bundle
The Pattern Set
The Conditioning Map and The Pain-Body Ledger together. The Map is about rules. The Ledger is about reactions. Worked together, they cover both halves of the same pattern.
A$47A$58 separately
How it works
Payment is handled by Gumroad. The PDF arrives by email straight after checkout and stays in your Gumroad library. Open it in Adobe Acrobat Reader (free), Apple Preview or the Files app on iPhone and iPad; your answers save inside the file.
A support structure, not a replacement
This workbook offers education and guided reflection for adults. It does not diagnose a condition or replace counselling, psychological treatment or medical care. If anything it raises is more than you can hold alone, bring the pages to a counsellor or therapist. Sessions are here.
Refunds
Because the file is delivered instantly, purchases cannot be returned or exchanged. If a file will not open or the fields will not fill, email coach@stabilisecoaching.com and it will be sorted, usually the same day.
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A$29, 39-page fillable PDF. Instant download through Gumroad.